ikaw na, da best ka eh!

have you ever had encounters with parents who think they are the UBPE? the Ultimate Best Parent Ever? =)

i have a lot of mom-friends, and even dad-friends, and thankfully, none of them is a candidate to be one.

unfortunately, i still cross paths with the UBPE-material, and it really annoys me to be in the same room with them. it's one thing when people give you advise, unsolicited or not. i welcome them and look at them as their way of showing concern, of sharing the knowledge they gained through experience. i know that they know that it's still up to me if i will take their piece of advice or not.

but to tell me that I AM doing something wrong, when it's not really wrong, but just different from YOUR way of doing things... that's a different story. since when did "different" == "wrong"?

every kid is different. every parent too. even moms and dads vary in their child-rearing styles at times. so please don't tell me i'm carrying my child the wrong way, when HE is not complaining, and especially when HE likes it. YOU should know your place and shut your mouth. it's not like you are doing everything perfectly in raising your kid either.don't get me started, i could bitch relentlessly.

maybe i'm just paying more attention to those comments, because i am now a parent and i am sensitive to how i'm doing as far as raising my child. maybe i've made a few comments that ticked other parents off too. but i don't remember ever calling out anybody and telling them they are doing something the wrong way.

i'm especially touchy when the UBPE is criticizing je. because i know how much sacrifice je is enduring to personally take care of pistoy. i really think he is doing a great job! je is a hero in my books, The Hele Man.

and this UBPE will just make comments as if he knows everything about being a parent. for the record, first timer ka lang din. who knows if you're doing it "wrong" yourself? wait for 20 years, see how our kids turn out, and THEN, tell me to my face where i went wrong. just because your child eats organic baby food doesn't mean your kid is superior over mine, or that you are a better parent than i am. and when your baby sleeps through the night, it doesn't mean i am doing something "wrong" because mine wakes up to feed every 3-4 hours. and yes, he is still taking 4 oz per feeding, and he is gaining weight thank you very much. so don't tell me to bump it up to 6 oz because you did when your child was at my kid's age. bakit, anak mo ba ang anak ko?

i wish some people will just be tactful. the last thing a parent needs is to have another parent tell them that they are doing a horrible job. because no one should really judge. this is not a competition. it's not my baby against your baby. we parents should help each other become better. why do some people need to put others down just so they could feel good about themselves?

sige na, ikaw na, da best ka eh! =P